Apologies to Caddyshack here, but it seems an appropriate cultural touchstone. Gotta love this article from the Feb. 25 New York Times about how a bunch of women at DePauw University in Indiana feel they were kicked out of their chapter of the Delta Zeta sorority because they didn’t conform to the proper image for the sorority:
When a psychology professor at DePauw University here surveyed students, they described one sorority as a group of “daddy’s little princesses” and another as “offbeat hippies.” The sisters of Delta Zeta were seen as “socially awkward.”
Worried that a negative stereotype of the sorority was contributing to a decline in membership that had left its Greek-columned house here half empty, Delta Zeta’s national officers interviewed 35 DePauw members in November, quizzing them about their dedication to recruitment. They judged 23 of the women insufficiently committed and later told them to vacate the sorority house.
The 23 members included every woman who was overweight. They also included the only black, Korean and Vietnamese members. The dozen students allowed to stay were slender and popular with fraternity men — conventionally pretty women the sorority hoped could attract new recruits. Six of the 12 were so infuriated they quit.
Apparently the women asked to leave had been interviewed by national officers who determined that they weren’t dedicated enough to recruitment, since membership had fallen. So what was the pre-diaspora Delta Zeta like?
…[T]he chapter appears to have been home to a diverse community over the years, partly because it has attracted brainy women, including many science and math majors, as well as talented disabled women, without focusing as exclusively as some sororities on potential recruits’ sex appeal, former sorority members said.
“I had a sister I could go to a bar with if I had boy problems,” said Erin Swisshelm, a junior biochemistry major who withdrew from the sorority in October. “I had a sister I could talk about religion with. I had a sister I could be nerdy about science with. That’s why I liked Delta Zeta, because I had all these amazing women around me.”
Wow! Sounds like I’d fit right in! Oh wait, maybe not:
But over the years DePauw students had attached a negative stereotype to the chapter, as evidenced by the survey that Pam Propsom, a psychology professor, conducts each year in her class. That image had hurt recruitment, and the national officers had repeatedly warned the chapter that unless its membership increased, the chapter could close.
At the start of the fall term the national office was especially determined to raise recruitment because 2009 is the 100th anniversary of the DePauw chapter’s founding. In September, Ms. Menges and Kathi Heatherly, a national vice president of the sorority, visited the chapter to announce a reorganization plan they said would include an interview with each woman about her commitment. The women were urged to look their best for the interviews.
The tone left four women so unsettled that they withdrew from the chapter almost immediately.
Robin Lamkin, a junior who is an editor at The DePauw and was one of the 23 women evicted, said many of her sisters bought new outfits and modeled them for each other before the interviews. Many women declared their willingness to recruit diligently, Ms. Lamkin said.
But willingness to commit to recruitment wasn’t enough, apparently, because even the president of the chapter was asked to leave:
The national representatives announced their decisions in the form letters, delivered on Dec. 2, which said that Delta Zeta intended to increase membership to 95 by the 2009 anniversary, and that it would recruit using a “core group of women.”
Elizabeth Haneline, a senior computer science major who was among those evicted, returned to the house that afternoon and found some women in tears. Even the chapter’s president had been kicked out, Ms. Haneline said, while “other women who had done almost nothing for the chapter were asked to stay.”
Six of the 12 women who were asked to stay left the sorority, including Joanna Kieschnick, a sophomore majoring in English literature. “They said, ‘You’re not good enough’ to so many people who have put their heart and soul into this chapter that I can’t stay,” she said.
Of course, I’m also wondering about the chicken-and-eggness of the social awkwardness/math-and-science major connection being drawn in the story. Annalee and Charlie could write circles around me about this, I’m sure. Sounds like a familiar narrative (and I’m wondering if it’s from the incident or imposed by journalistic formula): Were those women in those male-dominated science fields just not feminine enough in the right ways? You gotta wonder, since after those interviews with the national officers most of those women were hidden in the attic during the ensuing recruiting drive:
A few days after the interviews, national representatives took over the house to hold a recruiting event. They asked most members to stay upstairs in their rooms. To welcome freshmen downstairs, they assembled a team that included several of the women eventually asked to stay in the sorority, along with some slender women invited from the sorority’s chapter at Indiana University, Ms. Holloway said.
“They had these unassuming freshman girls downstairs with these plastic women from Indiana University, and 25 of my sisters hiding upstairs,” she said. “It was so fake, so completely dehumanized. I said, ‘This calls for a little joke.’ ”
Ms. Holloway put on a wig and some John Lennon rose-colored glasses, burst through the front door and skipped around singing, “Ooooh! Delta Zeta!” and other chants.
The face of one of the national representatives, she recalled, “was like I’d run over her puppy with my car.”
And I hope she was dancing to “Super Freak,” too.
Girls, there is a sorority for you: Sigma Sigma Alpha Gamma. We’ll welcome you with open arms.
Ironically enough, another Delta Zeta chapter also made the news last week. Police searched the DZ house at Texas A&M and found cocaine. http://media.www.thebatt.com/media/storage/paper657/news/2007/02/15/News/Student.Found.With.2.4.Ounces.Of.Cocaine-2721785.shtml
I hear this place is restricted, Wang, so don’t tell ‘em you’re a ……
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the thing that is so absurd is that they were trying to find a place of acceptance but found the opposite– isnt it ok to find acceptance in yourself without the need for them to start with ?
no moderation needed- its a petty world you want to fit in with?
I am an alum of Chi Omega – This same situation happened to me in the 70’s. Because I was a Jew the national Chi Omegas asked if I wouldn’t be more comfortable in another organization. I stuck it out and provided the diversity the house needed. Guess we have not come a long way baby! I am appalled that sororities across the country are not banning together to see that this profiling does not occur.
As a woman of color, sorority woman, and IU graduate, I have ranted about this elsewhere, so I just came here to enjoy.
“Pre-diaspora Delta Zeta.” Heeeheeeheeheehee.
[...] This just in. Of course, plenty of discrimination for petty and superficial reasons still goes on in the world (see I hear this place is restricted, Wang, so don’t tell ‘em you’re a geek). And society still feels like it’s OK to comment on women’s appearances to a greater degree than they comment on men’s looks. But the self-immolation of this sorry sorority chapter gives some hope that we are yet moving in the right direction as a culture. [...]